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I’ve often been accused of being a Pollyanna (i.e. overly optimistic). However, this adoptive parent to a Russian child is WAY out there in terms of optimism. She is referring to the 10-day waiting period after the Russian judge finalizes the adoption, but before you are legally allowed to leave the country:

I am looking forward to the 10-day wait. I hopes to be able to take my new child(ren) on day excursions to help us bond. Maybe visit the beach and see those tragic seals and short-nosed dolphins. A movie. A restaurant. That worn out “amusement park.” A trip to the children’s theater or whatever show is in town. A walk on a trail. A visit to a museum, even if it just a campus exhibit. A ride on a train and then… Ice fishing. Skiing. Mushing.

Maybe I’m a minority of one, but that 10-day period was probably the most exhausting period of my life. Of course, we had two babies, not one older child, but some days we were lucky just to leave the hotel for a walk around the grounds. Ice Fishing? Hahahahahah. Good luck with that. :)

I think a good rule of thumb for potential adoptive parents (PAPs) is to reduce your expectations to the bare minimum, then be pleasantly surprised on the upside. UPDATE: Same advice goes for Canadians and Portlanders.

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2 Comments

  1. Damon  •  Mar 15, 2008 @9:14 am

    Reducing expectations doesn’t help the gold plated diaper industry: http://tinyurl.com/32×48u

  2. Rob O.  •  Jan 4, 2009 @7:43 am

    We adopted from the Moscow region earlier this year and with flights being so expensive, it worked out less expensive to stay put for the 10 days. All together, we were in an apartment on New Arbat for 22 days on that second trip. We didn’t, however, have Liam until the actual “Gotcha Day,” so we used those 10 days to do some frostbitten sightseeing and hang out at Starbucks reading books.

    Wasn’t exactly fun, but it was part of the experience and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I only regret that we didn’t have a better mastery of the Metro. Sheesh, it was confusing!!

    You can see details of our process at Russian Adoption Journal.

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